Mom guilt: sad lady

Mom guilt. We’ve all felt it from time to time. Sometimes it’s subtle, creeping momentarily into our thoughts throughout the day. Other times, it’s intense, keeping us up at night. Whether short-lived or all-consuming, we moms know how to wrack our brains with remorse. Feelings of doubt fill our heads as we reflect on the day’s events, reliving the moments we could have done differently.

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Motherhood is hard enough without the burdensome thoughts of failure or falling short. So, what kind of things are eating at us? Well, the list is extensive. As parents, much of our mom guilt stems from the simple fact that we care so much. Moreover, unrealistic expectations to be perfect from family members, social media, TV, and the internet amplify our feelings of inadequacy.

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There Are Many Reasons We Feel Mom Guilt:

Feeling guilty for feeding our baby formula

Feeling guilty for not breastfeeding, or not loving breastfeeding

Feeling guilty about going back to work

Feeling guilty for being working moms

Feeling guilty for needing a mental health day, vacation, or time away from your kids

Feeling guilty for getting frustrated or losing your temper

Feeling guilty for allowing your kids to watch too much TV or have too much screen time

Feeling guilty for not reading to you kids enough

Feeling guilty over the things you ate during your pregnancy

Feeling guilty for feeding your children store-bought baby food

Feeling guilty because your baby rolled off the couch

Feeling guilty for not letting your kids play with certain messy toys

Feeling guilty for staying home too much and not getting out of the house with your kids

Feeling guilty for bribing your kids to do something and not following through yourself

Feeling guilty for having “second baby syndrome”

The mom guilt list goes on and on…

We’re all familiar with television, movies, and books depicting the “perfect mom”. She’s impeccably dressed, has supermodel kids, heads the PTA, and seems to have the perfect life. What’s funny though, no matter how much seems to be in her favor, our perfect mom rarely assumes the role of the protagonist. So, who’s the real heroine of the story? None other than the run-ragged, late-arriving, sweatpants wearing mom, whose kids are constantly bickering, and who can’t seem to catch a break. Boxed wine and mom guilt are a part of her nightly routine.

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So, what becomes of our perfect mom? More often than not, she ends up having a major crisis of conscience, only to join forces with our real leading lady in the end. While this is a win for imperfect moms everywhere, we should know better than to buy into the hype.

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While it may seem like these idolized matriarchs of media have it all figured out, this is just simply not the case. Internet groups and mommy forums further perpetuate this false imagery by collectively shaming moms they see as failing to live up to the standards. But, when it comes to parenting, there’s no such thing as perfection.

Influences from popular culture have turned parenting recommendations into expectations. Somewhere along the line, we all started believing if we’re not meeting them, we’re not “momming” right. We all have things we’re great at, so it’s not worth feeling guilty over our shortcomings. While it may feel like we’ve only got one shot at this, the reality is, there’s plenty of opportunity for refinement. So, let’s cut ourselves some slack. There’s no right or wrong when it comes to being a mom, only what makes sense for your family.

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5 Comments on Mom Guilt: Why You Should Cut Yourself Some Slack

  1. I have certainly felt all of the mom guilts possible! You are so right about the dedication on TV, movies, and mom groups. I think the only cure is to do trust that you are doing the right thing for you, your child and your family.

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